This Is the Real Reason Your Sex Drive Drops, According to Science

Is your libido MIA? Has your love life died? Find out why you’re not craving intimacy right now and what you can do to save your relationship.

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Not in the mood? Here’s why:

So, your sex drive just took a serious nosedive – or maybe a small catnap. There’s no need to give up on sex all together.

While your low libido could come from a variety of sources, the explanation might be as simple as how long you’ve been shacking up, new research says.

A recent study published in BMJ Open analyzed a two-year survey of people’s sex lives. The data included responses from 4,839 men and 6,669 women between the ages of 16 and 74 years who had at least one sexual partner in the past year. (Surprisingly, this is the magic number to have a satisfying sex life.)

Blame your sex for not wanting to have sex

After they crunched the numbers, the researchers came away with some interesting results.

Overall, 15 per cent of men and more than 34 per cent of women reported having a lack of interest in sex. Turns out we are more likely to be less interested in sex. (Here are six reasons men say no to sex.)

Many separate factors contributed to a lower sex drive among both men and women, including age, sex history, and physical and mental health.

But for women, in particular, a lack of interest in sex was higher among those who reported being in a long-term relationship for at least one year.

Is your relationship to blame?

Long-term relationships provide plenty of perks, including security, support, and simple companionship.

The one negative: Once the “honeymoon phase” dies down, sex can often go by the wayside.

“A lot of couples struggle when their sex lives become too routine,” David Klow, LMFT, and owner of Skylight Counseling Center in Chicago told Prevention.

Luckily, there are plenty of ways to help you rekindle the spark. Experimenting with new positions and locations, communication in and out of the bedroom, and couples therapy are all viable options, depending on you and your partner’s preferences. And don’t forget these expert-approved tips and tricks to improve your sex life, stat.

Seriously, though, no pressure! Remember that happy, healthy sex starts when both parties have their mojo.

Originally Published on Reader's Digest

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