Under the Hollywood microscope
The most challenging thing about confidence is how hard it is to find it. No matter how fit or fabulous others think you are, we always tend to focus on the things we don’t quite like about ourselves whenever we look in the mirror.
And while you may think the famous faces in Hollywood are immune to those self-deprecating thoughts, we can assure you they’re not. There are entire businesses built on criticizing celebrities’ appearances (we see you, E! Fashion Police), so if anything, being a celebrity makes confidence that much more elusive.
Yet, somehow, they’ve managed. They’ve found ways to rise above the critiques and the trolls and learn to truly love themselves, so we’re taking a cue from them and sharing five of their best tips.
What is your real goal?
Rita Ora explained her workout philosophy to Shape magazine (and it’s a good one): “I didn’t start working out to get skinnier — I started working out to feel better. And I think it’s important for women to know that. Don’t be obsessed with being thin. You just have to be fit, healthy, and strong.” Amen, sister.
You are a queen
Demi Lovato has slowly but surely become the queen of confidence. She released a song called “Confident,” and has been an advocate for body image acceptance for years. Getting vocal about her past and present on Twitter, she encouraged women to look beyond their size: “Sometimes when I’m having bad body image issue days, I remind myself that I’d rather live in freedom from my eating disorder than worry about what people think about my body. I am more than a number and a jean size.”
You have the right to bare arms
What others see as an enviable asset, we often see as a flaw in ourselves. Take U.S. gymnast Ali Raisman. When she was younger, kids used to make fun of her muscular arms. She told People that it took a total perspective shift to get over the teasing and appreciate what those muscular arms had done, and continue to do for her.
“My muscular arms that were considered weird and gross when I was younger have made me one of the best gymnasts on the planet,“ she explains. “Don’t ever let anyone tell you how you should or shouldn’t look. There is no such thing as a perfect body type.”
You are strong
Like Raisman, Canadian figure skater Tessa Virtue says it’s key to focus on the things your body does for you instead of the things you don’t like about it. She says of her muscular build, “I’ve learned to embrace that because it’s makes me strong, giving me speed and power on the ice.”
You are great, because you’re realistic
Actress and host Alison Sweeney says that it’s all about “honouring who you are.” She advises against trying to fit a certain mold or become a certain type of person, especially when it comes to women trying to get their “pre-baby body” back. Advising against the unattainable goal, she says, “you have to move forward and be the best you – right now.”